Experienced Vs Non-experienced guys

The following is from an Internet message board conversation. It italicized part is three levels of previous dialog. That is followed by my response.


:::Speaking of...
: : : Given a choice would girls prefer a guy who is a virgin or someon who is experienced? [downside-an experienced guy would always be thinking of other women he has slept with]

: : : My mind is not working today.Hence this utterly cheesy topic.

: : Why don't get the ball rolling by saying what you prefer?

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: Let me think. Romantically it would be great to be with a guy who is losing his virginity to you. I think he will be more faithful. He will make a better husband.

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: I would be cautious of guys who have been promiscuois before. God knows how many woemen thry have slpet with before you. It talks a lot about their nature too, that they are probably philanderes. Not to be trusted with marriage. But then, on the positive side they would probably be slightly better in bed.

: So if you wnat to just screw aruound and have fun-go for the non-virgin guys. If you want to marry and settel down-go for the simple virgins.



Y CHROMOSOME answers:
THIS IS CLASSIC EXAMPLE OF HOW A WOMAN IMPOSES HER OWN FEMALE ATTITUDES AND NATURE ON MEN. THE STATEMENTS I HAVE BOLDED ABOVE ARE FALSE FOR MEN IN GENERAL (THERE ARE ALWAYS EXCEPTIONS, OF COURSE). HOWEVER, THE BOLDED STATEMENTS ARE ALL TRUE FOR WOMEN. SINCE YOU ARE A WOMAN, YOU ARE IMPOSING YOUR OWN NATURE ON MEN, AND GETTING IT TOTALLY WRONG. WOMEN ALWAYS DO THIS MISTAKE.

YOU SAID: experienced guy would always be thinking of other women he has slept with

MEN CAN'T MULTI-TASK. THEY USUALLY CAN'T DO IT EVEN IN THOUGHTS. THAT IS THE REASON WHY IF YOU GO OUT WITH A MAN WHO IS NOT TOO INTERESTED IN YOU, IT IS VERY OBVIOUS. IT IS ALSO VERY OBVIOUS WHEN A MAN CHECKS OUT OTHER WOMEN, WHEN HE IS WITH YOU. HE CAN'T MULTI-TASK AND KEEP YOU HUMORED, WHILE HIS MIND AND EYES WANDER.

ON THE OTHER HAND, A WOMAN CAN GO OUT MANY TIMES WITH A MAN SHE IS REALLY NOT INTERESTED IN. AND, SHE CAN ACT IN SUCH A WAY THAT NOBODY WOULD KNOW FOR SURE THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN HIM. SHE CAN ALSO CHECK OUT ALL THE OTHER MEN IN THE ROOM WITHOUT THE GUY KNOWING IT.

THE SAME LOGIC APPLIES TO SEX. WOMEN ARE OFTEN MORE GUILTY OF HAVING EXTERNAL FANTASIES DURING SEX, THAN MEN.

YOU WROTE THIS ABOUT A GUY WHO HAS NOT SLEPT WITH OTHERS AND WILL LOSE HIS VIRGINITY WITH YOU: I think he will be more faithful. He will make a better husband.

ONCE AGAIN THIS IS NOT TRUE. THE CHANCES OF STRAYING BY A GUY WHO HAS HAD PRIOR EXPERIENCE, BUT TRULY LOVES YOU, IS MUCH MUCH LESSER THAN THE GUY WHO HAS HAD NO EXPERIENCE BEFORE. BY NATURE, MEN WANT TO HAVE VARIED EXPERIENCES. SO, A GUY WHO HAS HAD LESS PRIOR EXPERIENCES IS MORE LIKELY TO SUCCUMB TO TEMPTATION, THAN THE ONE WHO HAS HAD MORE EXPERIENCE.

WOMEN, ON THE OTHER HAND, ARE DIFFERENT. A WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN LOOSE IN THE PAST, IS MORE LIKELY TO BE LOOSE IN THE FUTURE. WOMEN WHO LOSE THEIR CONTROL ONCE, ARE FAR MORE LIKELY TO LOSE IT AGAIN BECAUSE THE VALUE OF THE CONTROL WOULD HAVE DIMINISHED OR DISAPPEARED FROM THEIR MINDS. FOR WOMEN, ONCE BITTEN, NO MORE SHY.

YOU WROTE ABOUT EXPERIENCED MEN: But then, on the positive side they would probably be slightly better in bed.

IT IS NOT NECESSARILY TRUE THAT EXPERIENCED MEN ARE BETTER THAN THOSE WITH NO EXPERIENCE. A BAD MALE LOVER MAY BE BAD NO MATTER HOW MANY EXPERIENCES HE HAS. THERE MAY BE SOME GUYS WHO START OUT BEING GOOD LOVERS, BUT THEN DETERIORATE OVER A PERIOD OF TIME DUE TO VARIOUS FACTORS - LACK OF ENTHUSIASM, BAD HEALTH, OLD AGE, CYNICISM, GETTING MECHANICAL ABOUT IT, ETC. AND I SUSPECT THAT THERE ARE ALSO GUYS ARE PRETTY GOOD LOVERS FROM THE VERY FIRST TIME. IN GENERAL, YOU WILL HAVE MORE FUN WITH A RELATIVELY LESS EXPERIENCED GUY, WHO IS CONSIDERATE, WANTS TO PLEASE AND IS WILLING TO LEARN.

BUT WHAT YOU SAID HOLDS TRUE FOR WOMEN. WOMEN WITH MORE EXPERIENCE ARE DEFINITELY BETTER THAN THOSE WITH LESS EXPERIENCE, WHEN IT COMES TO SEX. THE MORE EXPERIENCE A WOMAN HAS, THE BETTER SKILLED SHE BECOMES. NO DOUBT ABOUT IT. THERE ARE ONLY FEW EXCEPTIONS WHO DON'T LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE OR GET WORSE.

FINALLY, A RULE OF THUMB: IT IS USUALLY BETTER FOR A WOMAN TO MARRY THE FIRST GUY SHE SLEEPS WITH, AND IT IS ALWAYS BETTER FOR A MAN TO MARRY THE LAST WOMAN HE HAS SLEPT WITH.

HOPE THAT HELPS.